I CAN'T STAND MY STEP KIDS!!!
I can't say how this forum brings me such relief to be able to vent. I have a situation where my husband and I have been married for 5 years and my husband's adult kids did not want to have anything to do with him at the time of the divorce and frankly told him to get lost. His kids never really respected my husband because his ex constantly bullied my husband into submission so the kids knew they didn't have to listen to them (by the way the would listen to the neighbor friend more than to their own father) His ex-wife filed for divorce and between her and a neighbor friend both told my husband off and basically told him he was a good for nothing and cursed his future and told him he would amount to nothing and would be miserable the rest of his life right before his ex threw him out. My husband desperately tried to talk to his kids after the divorce and to no avail. My husband's ex made considerably more money than he did and therefore decided she didn't want or need him anymore and began to buy the kids all they needed including brand new computers and everything their little hearts desired. Needless to say the loyalty of the kids were with the money and the mother. Well here we are 5 years later and now the adult daughters have decided they want to see their father but let me add that they have had a huge fight with their mother and in my opinion they are playing the control and manipulation card with their mother and using their father to accomplish this. Meanwhile, me and my husband have been very happy and my husband does not want to see them because none of it seems genuine or sincere. He just frankly does not trust them. I know it may sound callous that my husband doesn't want to see them but I assure he really is a wonderful man. Well as far as how I feel I know I shouldn't feel this way but I don't want them in our lives either. I sometimes feel so bad for feeling this way but I just don't want them to separate how we have now established our lives and love and respect each other. HELP!!! I don't know what to do! Thanks for those of you who UNDERSTAND it makes me feel that I'm not alone in my frustrations. Your input is appreciated.