Hubby's love child of 30 years ago surfaces, wants relationship
My husband and I have been married since 2015. I have two biological children in their 30s. He has two biological children and their 20s and two adopted children and their 20/30 s. Last week he received notification on fb (after reconnecting with family on his country of origin) from a 30 year old woman claiming to be his bio daughter from a summer fling. He has already had extensive convo (including video chat) with her. DNA not yet confirmed. And is obsessed with connecting w her. Even chatting with her while ignoring all of us during a family gathering. He has announced plans to fly there immediately if the DNA is positive. This is interrupting so many pre commitments, including a trip to visit my soon to be married daughters future inkaws which has been planned for some time.
I'm not upset he might have a love child from teenage indiscretions. I don't blame him for that. I'm not upset that the girl so brashly burst into our lives,. Apparently she has been searching for him for years and claims she just wants to fill a gap in her life. I do feel upset tho that he seems obsessed with her and is pushing people and commitments he already has in his life aside in her favor.
It worries me that he is already established a relationship of sorts via chat and video hat with this girl. We know nothing of her history, family, background etc.
I also just feel like I got hit by a freight train and no one seems to validate my emotions. Friends we have confided in expect me to be a silent supporter and to welcome this intrusion like some sort of miracle blessing. I don't feel blessed, and I don't know that I can handle this new journey. I'm just sad and crying all the time and wish he wouldn't bring her up every 5 minutes. Oh, also, shes a single mom with 2 under 8.