How it’s been
So I’ve seen my adult stepdaughters twice over the past year. For a few days at a time. My observations are that one of them is very sweet kind and she and I will get along fine. Luckily she is one who has moved closer to us so we will see her on some weekend trips. Terrific.
The other one remains standoffish and aloof. Very fixated on herself and all her needs. A bit of a hypochondriac but I just sit and observe. Would you consider it telling that on a road trip of 4 hrs whilst she was in the passenger seat she immediately placed on the big headphones where they remained until we pulled into our driveway 4 hrs later? I was driving and her father was in backseat with our dogs.
Husband did say some things that the sweet daughter did not like. Like saying to someone that “my youngest lives in California.” Who is actually MY daughter. The youngest of all of our combined.
So it’s been interesting. My DH will not comment negatively on his kids AT ALL. And they know it.
But definite positives all around. Look if she wants to be disengaged fine.