H Has Been Served and I Am Having a Hart Timne Today
H was finaly served last Friday. He hase-mailed to my lawyer and told him he doesn't want this divorce and just what can be done to stop it. As H put it, all chldren out of divorced families have problems. Umm, H, NO. THAT is not so. My DD is a chld from a divorce (her father and I split when she was in 1st grade). She has turned out well. Good marriage, 2 degrees, great career and NORMAL grandchildren. When I say that I don't meann perfect, none of us is. But she isn't bat sh*t crazy, vindictive, mean, self-centered and you all know the rest. H's other 2 children are doing fine. I haven't spent tons of time with them, but what I have has been good. But, that was the same with Twit, she SEEMED okay until we moved closer to her.
Today I am a weepy mess. My stomache has been churning for the last two days and....well, you can imagine.
I find myself thinking that what could have been done was for him to have actually, solidly stood up to Twit against me. Not let the carp go on and let me defend myself, while saying nothing. Then, when I pointed out to him what occured tell me, "Yeah, I heard that and didn't like it". BUT, he never stood up for me or told the Twit that she couldn't do that to me.
In fact, many times he would get on my case telling me to ignore the attacks and insults etc. and that I was being small if I called her on it. I remember the first time I came to this board when Twit told H that I called her a liar (which I never did) and she ran to him crying and demanding that he set me straight. He did. Didn't talk to me the weekend, told me I owed the freak an apology etc.
Reading the situation which lead up to that I should have left then. That was right after she made this big thing about having sent me a Mother's Day card inf ront of H (which really pleased H). When I said I never received anything from her she went on to tell me that I must have ACCIDENTALLY thrown it out or I was lying. It wasn't the card, it was the getting in my face that teed me off.
So, H wanted us to straighten it out. Okay, then it was that it probably got lost in the mail, blah, blah, blah. Then, for stome straing reason she comes up with the interesting tidbit that she would have invited me over for dinner BUT she can't afford itl. She started going on about how I DEMAND she serve me steak etc. Folks it was surreal. I am not a big red meat person at all and H knows it. When we left, DH said he wasn't happy with what she said but that was it. I remember that so well because when we got home she called and started in on me. I stopped her and let her have it tellling her that IMHO she has no concern for anyone but herself (she had proved that in her actions with her father, ignorning him on Father's Day and then calling 3 days later saying how she FORGOT, walking out on us after inviting us over, and the list goes on.. Saying that to her is what caused her to run up to our house crying to H that I had called her a liar.
What I emphasie is that H backed her up, not me. I was always being told to be BIG about it, suck it in.
H should have told that cretin years back that she was nutz. The late night phone calls, the suicide ploys, the problem she had with medical doctors, and let us not forget Drunkie, Fatso and whatever the 3rd one is.
My attorney is not the kind that enflames divorce situations to keep them going.
I know this is long and a repeat, but let us not foget the insulting GARBAGE gifts, the trying to get things from me free, the stealing from me (where I was told by H to just let it go and not make a big deal about it!). Anytime she was around you had to count the silver and check out your jewelry box. Seriously!