H is basically giving me orders for this vacation with SD!
I am not looking forward to this vacation. It’s been in the works since April and I’ve been dreading it since then. In 1 month we head out to Disney for 5 days to visit H’s extended family who I’ve never met, SD has never met and he hasn’t seen in about 25 years. I am so not looking forward to having to spend 5 days with SD 22. H knows I don’t care for her but keeps pushing her on me and has for the 10 years I’ve been out here. I haven’t been super excited about the trip and it shows. H is all giddy and keeps saying how much fun the trip will be and how he’s excited for everyone to meet me and SD. I am 99.9% sure it will be a s**t show and H will end up being upset with either me or SD or both of us. He tells me last night “I want to you talk to SD and I want her to talk to you. Don’t get weird about stuff”. Don’t fu**ing tell me how to be with her! Keep in mind I am paying nearly $4000 to go on this trip with her because she just HAS to meet her extended family. I am paying for 3 nights in a Disney hotel, I am paying for the 3 of us to have a 3 day Disney pass. You are paying $1200 for our plane tickets. Don’t ask me why I’m paying 3 times the amount you are to take a vacation YOU want, with YOUR kid to see YOUR extended family! And no doubt he’ll pull the old “Well I’m going to lay down and take a nap, but you two can go off and hang out”. I fu**ing HATE that! I’ll do whatever I damn well please if I’m paying that much for a trip I don’t even want to take! Then he says that one night that the 3 of us just need to have a drunken debauchery night. Yes, the first thing he always thinks about is getting drunk!
Then he tells me that our last night there he wants us to stay with his niece and her 3 teenagers. His niece is 34 years old, has 3 kids by 2 different dads and I don’t think either of them are in the kids’ lives. She seems to be doing quite well with the kids, but for some ungodly reason, H thinks he needs to step up and be a father figure for them! 3 years ago, never having spoken to the kids and not even being able to remember all their names, he decides he needs to buy each of them a bike for Christmas. You haven’t seen or spoken to your niece since she was in grade school, don’t know her kids but feel like you have to be this presence to them when we’re there. He was all worried last night about how to present himself to them. These kids don’t give a rat’s ass about you! How about you work on being a dad to your own daughter!