grandchild's first birthday - should i reach out even though SD hasn't talked to her father in almost 8 months?
my SD had a baby a year ago. not a good situation at all. she quit school in her senior year of college...that her dad actually went bankrupt over!
hubby lost his job 2 years ago...we lost everything! he went back to school and is back working but will never ever make the same amount of money he used to...which is fine but SD never once even acknowledged the fact that we were really struggling financially. everything is about her...and hubby dances around her like she is a queen! she can do no wrong.
she is repulsive! she burps loudly at the dinner table...farts at will.....shows no respect to me or even her own father. she lies about everything!
she stopped talking to us 8 months ago when hubby refused to babysit for her every friday night(HIS DECISION ENTIRELY).
i'm torn........i have no love for SD and really couldn't care less if i ever see her again in my life. but i know it's bothering my husband that he doesn't see her or his only grandchild. the baby will turn 1 in a few days and we've only seen him a handful of times.
the resentment i have for this girl is off the charts. and when hubby is with her...he becomes sarcastic and manner-less as she is. it's awful! and, i've been the butt of their "joking" more than once. it hurts me more than i can explain when my own husband becomes a child and makes fun of me...the woman he loves.
anyway..that all being said. i feel bad hubby is bothered by not seeing his only daughter and grandchild....should i reach out to her? she hasn't reached out to us....
i don't want to open a can of worms...but i feel guilty for not making more of an effort....HOW DOES THAT EVEN MAKE SENSE????????????
i suggested getting together and having a long talk...but hubby still won't back me up on certain things. he tells me i have to deal with it and talk to her but if i do...he gets upset at the way i handle it. i can't win...either way.
how do we ever get past all this?????????????????? will it ever end???????????
anyone have any suggestions?????