Getting tired of the pretense that I don’t exist
Having learned to accept the fact that I will never have a relationship with SD43, and having accepted that DH will have a relationship with her, I still can’t deal with the pretense between them that I don’t exist.
SD lives in another country. She and DH talk incessantly about all the minutiae in the life of her kids, her husband and herself. This includes daily activities, trips, household events, her husband’s job. DH asks about each one individually and sends them all love.
This would all be fine were it not for the game they play that DH is single. All emails, cards, letters, calls are addressed to him. Even when significant events occur in our lives, if I am affected, it is ignored. For example, when my mother - who had always been loving to SD - died, no mention; when I received a well-publicized award, no mention. If we go on a trip, it is only what HE did or enjoyed. On and on.
I recognize that she hates me. Her husband and kids are most likely following along to keep peace since I had a civil relationship with them. But my issue is with DH. He plays along with this game. I know because he admits it. He thinks she will stop talking to him if he changes his approach. (How pathetic is that)!
She will do whatever she has been doing these last 16 years. However, I am sick and tired of HIS acquiescence.
Do I just suck it up?