The drama never stops when you have adult SDs
If you have multiple SD's, be prepared for the drama to never stop. Mine are in their mid-40's.
These two "women" love to plot and plan on ways they can cause trouble. They love trying to get DH away to themselves on holidays, making sure I understand I am not part of their family. OSD even made of point of saying I was not family and as a result should not have to communicate with me. She was FORTY at the time. Fine. I have not talked to her in almost 5 years.
YSD texts me occasionally but I don't trust her for a second. She is Chief Flying Monkey for her narcissist sister, and is only trying to look nice for daddee. She's the brains behind whatever dumb games they come up with.
We fortunately live far away, and after disengaging they could not figure out how to get at me anymore. They tried some really dumb stuff with social media; I blocked them. When I saw that Zoom was being used to connect people during the pandemic, I knew that would be part of their next game, beause they had run out of ideas. Being drama lovers/game players/gossipers, they seem to be very bored being stuck at home.
But today I can't help but chuckle that their latest plan flopped. DH told me that OSD, who I haven't spoken with in almost 5 years, texted that I was invited to Family Game Night for YSD's birthday......on Zoom. I said no way and asked to see the text. Well, not quite!
The intial plan was that OSD was inviting BM, YSD, YSD's SO, and DH to the zoom event. Of course her own DH and children were involved too. It seems that these middle-aged women needed to have both mommy and daddy on the Zoom, and everyone else's SO - except for DH's. To play MONOPOLY online. For a mid-40 year old bday. Puhleeze. DH asked her to invite me (I am happy he noticed I was not included).
Where on earth would they get the idea that DH would want to be on a Zoom call with BM to play a "family game"?
The whole intent was it was Family game night, and once again, Lamby isn't family. And if they are like they normally are, one of them will call DH tomorrow to ask if we are fighting. That's what they are hoping for. They love having power over our lives, which they no longer do.
What really made me chuckle was when DH said to me "it's maddening they are still acting this way!" I said "I have been putting up with this crap for years! Where have you been?" But he knows what they have been doing......he just chooses to go back in denial when nothing is brewing. I stay happily away from their dumb family drama. They truly are unhappy people.
Yes, it's true when you disengage these drama lovers get more desperate in their attempts to cause trouble, and it looks a lot more obvious. I am to the point now I don't get mad anymore. It actually makes me laugh seeing them play their games that now continually fail.
In the end DH texted YSD that sorry, we had plans for dinner so could not participate in Family Game night that had been scheduled at the last moment.
And I texted YSD "sorry that we were not available to play games". She's smart enough to get what I meant.