DH won’t respect my wishes to disengage
I am so upset after having a massive row with DH. Basically I have been trying to disengage because despite my best efforts neither SDs want a relationship with me.
Today we’ve had a massive row DH said that he doesn’t tell me anything about kids because I have been nasty towards them. I asked him what he meant by this and he couldn’t tell me! All I can think of is that I have said YSD at 23 should be doing a full time job and not a part time one. I also said in the argument that neither of them want a relationship with me anyway to which he ignores!!
I also find it difficult because they have always been completely monopolised by the mother so aren’t in our lives often apart from when they need something from DH. Money usually with the youngest and to now spend time with him because she hasn’t got a boyfriend.
I am beside myself, upset and angry thinking that I really don’t want to see them at all now as he has caused all this trouble. Worrying how the hell my marriage will survive if I refuse see them? Will I have to spend the rest of my life having to pretend that I am happy in their company just to keep the piece?
I am also heartbroken because he refused to have kids with me saying that he didn't really want them in the first place but here he is now father of the year!!
Any advice please would be much appreciated thank youxx