Cutting stepchildren out of my will
I stumbled upon this site so I'm brand new here. I'm 60 and my husband died 19 months ago, after a long decline with Parkinson's. He was 73 then, and we had been married for 25 years. I inherited everything, which is to say, our house, and the IRA which helps support me.
I have 2 children, now 34 and 35, by my first marriage. My husband had 3 children by his first marriage, they're older, in their 40's.
None of his children ever like or accepted me, never even gave me a chance. For 10 years prior to his death, they did not come to visit him because of their dislike for me. He was in a nursing home for 18 months, two hours away from all 3 of them, and one of them came to visit him 2 times during that time. I don't understand how a wonderful, intelligent man like my husband could be the parent of these three children, they are nothing like him.
One son called me once since his father's death. I might consider leaving that son something. But really, I don't want to leave any of these children anything. Can I do that? I suppose I can, but can they contest and win? I don't want to make trouble for my children after I'm dead by leaving my assets to them and then they have to mess with legal stuff.
How I suffered at the hands of these spoiled little step-brats. I used to have them come over for dinner and after they left I would cry, they made me so uncomfortable in my own home. I'd like to kick every one of their asses. If my children acted the way they acted toward me I would give them a huge piece of my mind.
Thanks for letting me vent. I'm still recovering from my husband's death. I am downsizing and hoping to sell our home and move to a smaller one, and perhaps buy a little condo in florida, too, near my daughter. Any help or advice anyone has for me would be greatly welcome and appreciated.