I was talking to a coworker recently. He and his wife have two bio kids. He is now retiring and he and his wife bought a retirement home in a place nowhere near their kids. Seems that BD and her mother have never gotten along and relationship has always been rocky. When they get together (rarely) it is civil but very strained.

Their BS is married to a woman who does not care for either my cowoworker or his wife, so they wind up with limited in exposure to their 2 gkids and thus, they don't see much of their BS, either.

I thought about this when considering the fact that many SMs have bad or non-existent relationships with skids. I think sometimes we forget that estrangement and other issues crop up with bio adult kids, too.

My own SO is dealing with the fact he rarely hears from his kids now they are "adults." A lot of it is the fact that they are off doing their own thing, which is normal. But I do think that no one can predict what kind of relationship (if any) people will wind up having once kids are grown.

I know many on these boards would just LOVE for their skids to drop off the planet permanently - or others wish skids would include them more w/their families/gkids.

I guess the purpose of this post is just to say that biology isn't necessarily what binds people - love is.