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Caretaker vs BPD/NPD manipulator: many of our DHs fit this pattern

Pilgrim Soul's picture

I stumbled on this book on Amazon right now and could not help sharing: it hits so many nails right on the heads.

http://www.amazon.com/Stop-Caretaking-Borderline-Narcissist-Drama/dp/144...

The author is Margalis Fjelstad, PhD. She writes for Psychology Today.

I think the woman is a genius!

My DH's description can be found on page 29.

Calypso1977's picture

but the problem here is half the time its the KID that is the BPD/NPD and we all know that the dads refuse to walk away.

Pilgrim Soul's picture

I have the same problem and my solution is ( the skids are adults): you need to walk away from the ROLE of the caretaker and their manipulations. A sick relationship does not serve anyone.