Anyone have skids that still manipulate (play parent off parent etc..) although they are now adults?
My OSD has always played parent off parent, parent off step-parent, step-parent off step-parent, has even tried this with my siblings and I
I've started to catch on to some really out there crap she has been trying between BM and I lately, when it comes to the sgkids
For example, she leads BM to believe that I'm at her place and see sgkids more often than is true. BM will make comments to me that indicate she thinks I'm there all the time, and know tons about what goes on, that I change the young ones diapers, etc...
And while OSD would never ever so much as say thank you to me directly for anything Dh "& I" buy for them, apparently BM walks around OSD's house saying "Wow, there sure are a lot of nice things here from Grandma Disillusioned"
OSD will go on and on to DH (in my presence of course) about all the many times BM is with the sgkids, how much they looooovvvvve her, etc..., but then trains them to run directly to me whenever there is an event we're all at yelling "Grandma Disillusioned!" ....and they only do it when BM and I are together. Otherwise, when it's just a family event of DH's that he and I are at, they have been trained to ignore me - not that they do for long
I couldn't figure out why BM seemed so possessive of skgids around me, carrying them around and making sure everyone knows SHE is the grandma. But, I should have known, it's OSD enjoying manipulating people as she always has, and unfortunately BM is actually believing it all
How does everyone else handle this?
For my part, I just keep my distance from all the drama including sgkids, especially when BM is around. Hopefully one day she'll wake up and see what's really going on, with her manipulative daughter!