Advice for the SD question?
SD has been so disrespectful to me over the years, just hearing her name makes me cringe. I've disengaged and that's been better -- I like to pretend she doesn't exist.
So that makes it uncomfortable when a friend of my husband asks me how SD's doing and I have to fumble through an explanation about SD, who has utter disregard for me and who I haven't seen in more than a year. (OK, it's not as bad as when people ask ME about my husband's ex-wife -- now THAT sucks. What is with people asking ME that????)
The SD question happens often, especially with my husband's friends, who apparently have no idea how ugly the relationship is between SD and me, nor how much trouble SD has caused in my marriage. I imagine if they knew, they wouldn't ask me about SD's status and I'd love that.
Does anyone have a good way of handling this? Is there a way to hint that I don't want to be asked about her without coming right out and saying, "SD's a cockroach -- strictly something to be avoided, so I can't tell you if she's still the same snotty little princess she was 1.5 years ago." I mean...I could say that, but I'd love a more nuanced answer to stem future questions. Any ideas? Thanks!