Advice on adult SD please
First time poster, but have read for a while and found the posts very helpful!
I really would like other peoples perspective. Essentially I have helped raise my SD (now 28). She lived with us since she was a tween. Throughtout that time we have had som many ups and downs. I have felt she has been in competition for me even though she says how much she loves me. She has very little to do with her bio mum (who I have never met - and I met DH after they had separated).
The issue is that I have found her behaviour manipulative - almost like she is setting her dad up to choose her. She was asked to apologise on something - and she did so in a formal way. Her dad has maintained a boundary (but has struggled with this over the years). We even attempted to go to therapy for but she either refused to talk, cried or stormed out and has now refused to go back.
So, the question - I have drawn a line in the sand and don't want to contact her since she has refused to go to therapy. Do you believe her father shuld keep in touch by either having a break from her behaviour for a period of time, but then getting in touch to see how she is - or do you think he should stay away until she decides to make more mature decisions. I have been with him for 20 years.