Adult stepsons causing major division in marriage
Need advice!!! Six years ago I got divorced and a year later met a women that now is my wife. She is 10 years older than I am and has 35 year old son, 32 year old son and a 28 year old daughter. I have a 16 Year old daughter and a 10 year old son.
My stepsons are both hardcore drug users, one just got out of prison after 6 years. I am a law enforcement officer and I knew her sons before we even met. I had knew that her sons would cause issues in our relationship so I was reluctant to get serious with her aT the time. She cut ties with them for a few years and everything was good.
Well here is where things changed!! My wife wanted to reconcile her relationship with her sons and LS who is 32 years old started coming to the house. Everytime He was strung out on meth. He would act totally inappropriate at my house. He actually brought meth into my house, my wife kept that from me knowing. He neglects his 4 year old Child she subjected to filth, domestic violence, drug usage, and he takes his daughter to drug houses. My wife calls him out but a week later everything is normal, ie giving him money and gifts. This has been going on for 4 years. She will not hold him accountable for any of his actions, he calls her names and leverages the grand daughter against my wife.
Her oldest son, just got out of prison and continued to use and sell drugs. He tells my wife he is clean however recent arrests would proved that's a lie. She continued to buy him gifts and holds it against me for not wanting him at our house. She is very hostile when I point out the things they are doing.
After years of this I'm tired of the drama. I don't want drug addict, thieves, child abusers in my life. She assured me she was done with them or I would not have married her. Now she is back to her old self and it's bring us down.
She won't go to counseling with me or listen to any of my concerns. I am close to just saying enough is enough and filing for divorce. Looking for advice!!