4 stepdaughters and one's a stripper .
Been married for 6 years (second marriage for both). He has 4 adult daughters. He and I are long-distance which would otherwise be impossible because of our jobs. Weekends that I can't spend with him because of work he spends that time with all/most of his daughters either at his house or at theirs. During that time, he claims he can't text me because he's busy (sitting around, making sandwiches, playing with one of his daughter's dogs, putting up a ceiling fan - yes, these are all real reasons). I feel very very second-rate. That is even after he cheated on me with someone he met online.In addition, one of his daughters is a stripper who lives on his property and recently asked her dad to "spend time" with a 20-year old woman who is a friend of hers. When I am with him and his daughters text BAM - he's right on it texting them back immediately. I beg for communication over and over and he always has excuses.
Sometimes I don't know if I can handle this for another month, much less years until we might actually be together. I know I know - I married him knowing he had these girls and yes, he acts certain ways because he feels guilt as an absent father when they were growing up after his divorce. But, I was blinded by somebody who was good at expressing love back then when it was something I had been missing for so long.
Any comments (negative or positive - really!) would be welcome. Already been to therapy. And< I know it seems it's just about the texting, but it's that I don't feel important.