Bio-mom controlling our time with the kids
Hi! I am so thankful to have found this site. I have been dealing with a Bio-mom for the past 3 years that has completely made my life hell. She controls my husband through withholding the kids, and will only allow us to have them if it fits her schedule. We are having to go back to court for custody modification and she has said that she will agree to more time, but not legally. I have tried so hard to have a good relationship with her, and I did, to the point where she told people that I was her best friend. Now that her and i have had it out over their father’s rights, she has started to text him over and over again, begging to go back to the arrangement that we had that allowed her to dictate when we have the kids. This was only on Thursday nights and every other weekend. She doesn’t work on fridays so she doesn’t want to have to get up and take them to school. When I put my foot down and said no more going against the decree until it is legally changed, it has caused me to be the bad guy in my marriage. The bio-Mom has been in and out of the psych ward, and continuously tells the boys that we don’t want them more. This situation has given me such anxiety that I am now on meds for the first time in my life. I also want to put out there that we pay her 300 more than the state calculator called for because her family blackmailed my husband when they got divorced. It was also based on two children being in child care, which neither of them now are. She says that she will legally agree to more time, if we keep the child support the same. We can’t afford it! She has also introduced the boys to 8 men over a 2 year period and has moved them in and out of two men’s homes. We are filing papers this week to modify things and I am scared to death that we will lose. I am an elementary school teacher with two kids of my own. Does anyone have some advice? I am in desperate need!