Poop has hit the fan
Just when I thought we could finally have some peace...
SS14 called SO this morning and asked to be picked up after school because he just couldn't take it any more at BMs. He didn't give any specifics, but SO went to pick him up and talk. SO made sure to let BM know that SS called him and that they were together. BM immediately accuses him of kidnapping and being stupid because he should know how to follow a court order and she was calling the cops. If his kid calls and says he's not comfortable going to BMs, SO is not just gonna tell him he's out of luck.
SO brought SS to our home and called her again to try have her calm down and talk to SS first before doing anything. SO handed SS the phone and heard her call him a MFer amongst other things. When he got the phone back SO tried to explain that he just wants to understand what's going on, to make sure SS is ok and that he had no ill intentions. She ended it with "Fine you can keep SS. I'LL KEEP YSD10".
The cop showed up with BM about an hour later. He had SS speak with BM while SO explained what was going on. She played it up, "cmon, let's go home. I love you. I promise I'll change". Surprisingly, SS didn't fall for it this time and said no, I don't want to go with you, in front of the cop! SS came back in and we both stood around nervously. The cop told BM there was no violation, that SO did not kidnap SS because he called her to notify her, and that he cannot force SS to go with her. Then she said "Fine. Keep him. He's your responsibility now" and waited for the police report before leaving.
SS says he's not being treated well there. They waited for him to get home from visitation with us to do the family's dishes and told him he better hurry up because he is not allowed to shower after 9pm. He can't do anything right over there. BM just yells at him because he he sticks up for himself and SO wherever BM brings it up. He feels bullied and unloved.
I'm wondering what next steps should we take. SO is hesitant to get a lawyer because of how unhelpful they were the last time around. If SO doesn't file soon, BM probably will cuz she was big mad when she left. I told SO that SS will need to speak for himself against BM when the time comes. We're unsure if this warrants emergency custody. Any advice or personal experiences welcome.