Parenting Plan: BM Playing Games
When my husband split from BM, he was far too trusting that she had everyone’s best interests in mind and allowed her to dictate the parenting plan almost without his input. This has proven difficult for us since then (2 years and counting), as BM wields the parenting plan like a dictator anytime she doesn’t approve of something we are doing or has demands, but then skirts around that very same plan when it suites her. For us it is a hard and fast rule of law, for her it is a fluid guideline and she does as she pleases. Recently, she informed us she is taking SD out of state for a long weekend but will not tell us where they are going. In the past she has demanded we tell her where we are if we are traveling with SD and we have always been accommodating. It is not written as a requirement in the parenting plan but again, this is an example of her making demands on us and then acting as though we are being outraging and “harassing her” by asking that she please just tell us where they are going.
I would love help with the following:
1. She is traveling out of state with SD this Friday, is there anything we can do to force this situation and get her to tell us where they are going?
2. Advice on moving forward with legal preparations to go back to mediation or court to rewrite the parenting plan so we have a more equitable level of control when it comes to parenting and working with BM.
Help is so appreciated! I’m up in the middle of the night worrying about this!