Just another rant against the court system
After 1.5 years, BM and SO still don't have a holiday schedule. BM has drawn it out as much as possibly, probably because she doesn't want to lose any CS, but she also hates the thought of SO getting any more time.
SO and BM went to court in July for modification with this holiday schedule being the top priority because she refused to agree on a schedule based on a Jan 2022 CO. The judge (who specifically mentioned that she did not have time to read SO's declaration) only ruled on Summer Break and sent them back to mediation for the rest, telling BM to "be more open-minded". This is after 2 failed mediations with BM refusing to acknowledge school vacations. So they went to mediation and BM pulls her shenanigans saying that the judge only allowed for Summer Break, so Spring and Winter don't count. Even the mediators were dumbfounded. She demanded to wait until the minute order came out, so mediation was a fail. Once the minute order came out, it specifically said that both parties were to come to an agreement and that if they couldn't agree, they could go to mediation, but it wasn't mandatory. At this point, the lawyer said we didn't need her anymore.
The series of events that have brought us here are just so odd. The original judge who ruled on the CO from Jan 2022 was removed from family law due to some crazy bias on one of his cases. The new judge that was assigned in his place comes from business or civil court. Here we are, in September, SO got 2 mediation dates and sent them to BM because he knows she won't do it. She refuses to respond to SO's communication with her, but maybe she is figuring out if the dates work for her. If she does not respond, SO filed modification paperwork and got a mandatory mediation date and court date.. but its for 3 months from now. Even the legal aid help that SO went to felt bad for him.. they normally kick people out after they used up their 15 minutes, but they ended up helping SO for over an hour because they didn't understand how his case got to this point. They didn't understand why the Judge refused to give him more time, saying it doesn't matter what job he works, his hours were not unusual. They didn't understand why they would send them back to mediation after all the previous failed attempts and that the judge should have made the decision in court based on their history. They didn't understand why the previous mediators allowed for BM to end mediation because of a minute order.
It seems that so many people within the system can see these faults, but no one can actually do anything about it. SO just wants this to be over with and I don't blame him. How has this been allowed to go on for so long? Honestly, I'm pretty sure BM doesn't want to go to court anymore either, but she refuses to do what is needed in hopes that SO will just get tired and let it go. I'm so fed up with this and the fact that it could take up to January of next year for this to be over... if the judge doesn't just send them back to mediation AGAIN. BM will look stupid for not working on a holiday schedule, but the judge didn't give her shit for it the first time, so we don't think she'll really get in any trouble for doing it again which might make BM more inclined to draw it out even more.