Divorce and Custody
My SO needs a divorce. We have consulted with several attorneys and he has been to mediation with BM. BM has attempted suicide and extreme PAS tactics. BM crys during mediation and refuses to cooperate or work on custody arrangement. She wants FDH to never see his children again. She basically performs war tactics. Attorneys want huge retainers and estimate over 10K for custody battle although he has good chance of winning due to suicide attempts. After going to all these meetings, reading books and consulting with the mediator, I'm becoming inclined to have him file himself.
Has anyone done that or have any information on it? The forms are not the hard part, I can do that. What happens when you get to court and you want her psychological evaluations subpoenaed? Can that be done if you are representing yourself? She does not have money for an attorney, either, as she does not work. The mediator suggested filing and putting it on inactive status to force her into cooperation in mediation. She said that once she goes to respond she will see what she is facing. Mediation is the cheaper alternative for all involved, and easier on the children. A filing will also tell us where her mental state is, if she is still suicidal, or not. She is using this "breakdown" state to avoid talking about the divorce. Everytime SO mentions it to her she crys, shakes, breaks things and generally deflects away from divorce. There is a good chance she will refuse to respond, would he automatically get a default judgement? Does anyone have any answers? Illinois