DH considering going from 0 custody to full custody.
I'm sure you could go back and read my past posts but I will quickly summarize if you need it.
DH has zero custody (we didn't have the resources but did want more custody but BM was cooperating with visitation time so it worked out). BM started abusing pain medications. We just learned she OD'ed late 2019 and stole oxycodone and started abusing that in early 2020. She got caught and is currently serving 6 days in jail time (went from 20 days, to 10, to 6). She will be on probation for the next 10 years and is considered a felon.
BM did quit using months ago, is part of a rehab program, and is cooperating with drug tests and counselors.
DH has had enough though, he wants to push from zero custody to full custody. Besides the things I mentioned, we also have evidence of lying/withholding information that could be impactful to SD (14). A history of leaving SD alone with BM's new romantic partners. Evidence of an unwillingness to cooperate in a time we were concerned about SD's wellbeing. Concerns about potential relapsing (BM admitted she might go backwards before she goes forwards). Concerns about BM's mental health and lying/trying to cover it up (she admitted on a social media platform about going a month without showering but never talked to us).
Not to mention SD claiming she wants to be away from her mom more. Is actually considering, all by herself, the thought of living with us instead of her mom. Her mom doesn't understand her, won't listen to her, overworks her, forces her to do extracurricular activities that she doesn't like anymore. She also claimed she felt unsafe one night when BM and BM's boyfriend were screaming at each other and says she is afraid they will do it again.
But I'm wondering, is all of that enough to get full custody? There is no actual evidence of child abuse or anything... Or maybe some of that is considered abuse. Or maybe at least negligence, I don't know. I suppose an actual lawyer would be able to tell us but I'm just trying to get a grip on all of this before talking to a lawyer.