Convincing DH to File for Child Support
I’m new to this forum so looking for advice. We have had a rollercoaster of court cases with BM over the past 10 years because of the questionable and dangerous behavior she has shown towards DSS. Five years ago my DH was awarded full custody and BM was awarded supervised visitation and some other stipulations put in place in order to have supervision removed. DH was also awarded child support. Fast forward 5 years and BM doesn’t see DSS because she can’t get her act together (their are substance abuse issues). Here is where I need advice. I am the breadwinner so I have taken on a lot of the financial burden over the years. Very soon DSS will be driving so he will need a car, auto insurance, gas, car maintenance, and not to mention all of the high expenses already involved with having a high schooler involved in sports. My DH still hasn’t registered through the state for child support because his attorney told him that the courts could evaluate his income and adjust the child support at any time. First, his attorney is an idiot and jerk. His ex is never getting this kid back. Second, who cares if they do. Even if the support decreases at least we are getting something to help off set this cost. Third, I have friends who have been through this process and they have never had their income re-evaluated for no reason. I think it’s all excuses. Does anyone have any advice on how to convince a spouse to register for child supoort? Please don’t attack me. I’m hanging on by a thread here and am looking for some guidance. I love my DSS more than life itself and will always find a way to give him the best life I can, I am just so stressed about juggling all of these finances especially when the ex is supposed to help pay for this stuff. Thanks everyone.