Would this be a hill to die on? DH’s spending habits on SS13
Now if SS13 had a Ounce of decency this is probably not bother me. SS13 the most spoiled entitled Disrespectful brat. Plus BM married "rich" so SS expects the same at our house. DH and I are middle class at best.
1. SS13 has hundreds of dollars BUT does not want to spend "his money" so expects DH to pay for things he wants. From new Electronics to school functions. DH always pays.
2. We go out to eat and of course SS13 wants Lobster or steak. SS13 meal often costs more then DH and mine combined. SS13 NEVER finish's it as he always orders to much and refuses to eat "leftovers" so DH eats it even if it's something he hates. DH pays.
3. SS13 is very Stingy selfish with his money. Just Recently SS13 got a gift card for a ice cream place. SS13 was making very clear if DH or I wanted ice cream too don't even think about using SS13 gift card to pay for it. Not that we would but SS13 wanted to make sure we did not even think about it. This is NOT the first time something like this happened.
Now I will say I personally refuse to give any money towards this Ungrateful brat. When we go out to dinner I pay for my meal ONLY. I have my own bank account and we split common household bills only.
Still it drives me nuts how DH hands over money which he really does not have. Does it effect me? Financially im thinking no BUT it does but a dent in DH's spending Ability which does effect me. DH only goes to Restaurants that he has a coupon for. We struggle going on vacation once a year and it's usually just someplace we can drive too. I will add I spilt all these costs with DH unless the brat goes then I just pay my way.
Yes I have Argued many times with DH about this BUT he just does not see it my way.
So my question is how would you handle this? Honestly am I making a bigger deal then it is?