Why DH, why?
When DH and I got together, he said how much he hated BM, how much of a liar she was, how much he knew he couldn't trust a word out of her mouth. and how much he had her in control. How awesome, right? He's got his shit under control!
When we first started dating, I pretty much had no clue what went on between DH and BM. How would I know, I'm not there at pick up or drop off. Then I saw signs here or there, excessive communication (seriously, several texts a day every single day plus almost daily phone calls), I told him all this made me uncomfortable, I wanted to give him space until he could sort things out, or we would just see other people. He stopped the excessive communications with BM.
Then BM wanted to do a joint birthday party, I was like, oh shit, this is gonna suck, I already knew it. DH kept asking her fot info, so that he could tell his family. She never gave him any information about it, accept for the price. So, he paid his half, but wasn't able to invite any friends or family. But I put my big girl panties on and went to the party, anyways. I even bought this big fancy Nancy doll (her favorite book was fancy Nancy).
Well, that sucked, but DH promised he'd never do a joint bday again, and he hasn't. But he's started doing something else that is really bothering me.
Now that sd is older, he's having to go to events that BM is part of, and I get that, there will be times that he has ti do that. But what he's doing is talking about things that are really personal. He says he's just making small talk. His dad died a year ago, and we were looking into rehoming his dad's dog, well he offered the dog to BM. Weird! Now, we're in a real financial crunch, his business is going under, so now he's looking for a new job. Well he told BM, and gave her all the details. This isn't small talk, this is very much big talk. None of this is her business. Ive told DH that he needs to stop talking to BM about our business. He just doesn't get it.