Who gets your Bios and/or Skids if you or your spouse dies when NO other bio parents are involved?
DH and I are almost one year happily married. And of course blended. I have 2 bios, he has one, we have none together. I'm 41 and tubes are churned and burned!
Anyhow, as much as I love my husband, he's completely lazy and in denial over all parenting issues with his kid. The kid has autism and a whole host of other physical disabilities. No baby momma (well there is one obviously, but she's probably finishing up her heroin and heading to the methadone clinic so she can get her free methadone and her welfare check)...aah but I digress. Skid is involved in multiple therapies and the poor therapists send home so much stuff for DH to work on with skid, and it sits and collects dust.....
My 2 bios father is in prison for my attempted murder. So clearly no baby daddy.
If I DIE before my kids are grown, they are to be returned to my mother and father (assuming they are still living). If DH dies, Skid is being returned to DH's parents (assuming they are still living, if not, Skid goes to DH's brother).
I have tried now for FIVE years to get my DH to step up and take care of his kids needs. He has chosen not to. I have carried the weight of this around like Atlas and have finally, because of the stress it causes on me and our relationship, just given it up to God and the chips will fall where they may.
Anyone else in a similar situation where there are no other bioparents and what your preferences are in case of your spouse's death?