What to do about Easter?
Rewind...SO's oldest daughter had a temper tantrum. She wished him dead, said she hated him, she wanted nothing to do with him ever again, and if he died it would be the best thing (side note: he is having some major health issues.) So, SO said "fine" and as a matter of fact he is wiping her savings account and making her pay for her own braces. And since SO is the only one who can access her savings, after the bill for the Orthodontist is paid, there is like a hundred dollars are so left. So he is just going to give it to BM and tell her to either give it to her or she (meaning BM) can open her up account.
So, since I have BKs of my own of course I make sure during Christmas and Easter baskets and stockings are stuffed and etc. SO has 2 other daughters (the middle one is going back and forth...she wants nothing to do with her father when he punishes or enforces punishment) so she hasn't seen him in about a month except once when he picked her up from school and she had an attitude and told him off. I swear these kids only want something when a holiday or their birthday is approaching (or of course when they need money.)
The last time SO heard from the older girls they said they didn't want anything to do with them. So SO asked BM if he could pick up the youngest and take her clothes shopping. BM said "SD #1 doesn't want to see you still but you can't leave SD #2 out." Now, SD #1 and #2 don't want anything to do with him.
So, I guess my question is....I am all for doing something for his youngest. She is completely innocent in all of this and isn't the problem. Do I do something for the older two for Easter? I did something for all three for VDay but since then there was yet another blow out. Also...Why doesn't BM enforce SD#1 to see SO but says "he HAS to do for SD #2." Both those girls are very foul mouthed and has cursed him more times I can count.
Is it wrong to do just for the ONE daughter and not the other two?