Weird culture of everyone expecting skids to be mistreated..?
Does anybody else notice this weird culture of "poor kid" around stepkids from everyone? It seems like everywhere I turn, someone is feeling bad for my SD over something or looking for some hint that she's mistreated. She lives with us full-time, she's most certainly part of our family, but yet... People always seem to look for clues that she's not treated well.
For example, halloween, my 1 year old son and I had matching costumes. When people asked what we were being, they're said "oh cute but WHAT ABOUT SD?" as if she was being left out. My husband offered to match with her but she declined because she's a kid and knows what she wants.
My friend, the other day, got in our car and noticed that SD sits in the back row of the 7 seat SUV. She said "aw why does she have to sit back there?" as if it was awful and she's pushed to the back or something... Again, she's a kid, she LOVES her cozy little nook in the back.
Even when I'm talking about my 1 year old's accomplishments/milestones to family and friends, they bring the conversation back around to SD asking how she's doing. I'm starting to feel so frustrated with it, especially when I'm trying to enjoy sharing something about my first born because it's all new and exciting to me.
I just don't get it. Does anyone else experience this? Or maybe it's just me and I'm somehow giving the impression that i'm a stepmonster?