Do not cater to him. My BD4 is trying this out on me. Now she won't eat meat!! Give me a break! I don't give in to her but we have been going to war over food. My DD10 will eat anything even when she was very young she ate anything you put in front of her. BD4 is getting worse and worse.

My sister has twin boys that are now 10. She catered to them their entire lives. Now if they sleep at someone's house, my sister packs them special food because they won't eat normal food, they are used to being catered to! They are the most awful kids I have even seen in my life.

All this effort you are putting in will just be wasted because BM or DH probably don't want to hear him cry so they will just give the kid whatever he wants. He will never learn. He will just learn to hate you. Sucks!

I HATE, no HATE picky kids.
I was not picky, my parents weren't either.
My bios aren't picky, we as parents aren't either.

My skids are the pickiest eaters ever. Always have been. Their BioMother regularly sends back food at restaurants complaining about her order, and is a very very picky eater. Her list of foods that she won't eat has been put onto the skids.

Having said that, I make ONE meal and if they don't like it - so what. This was hard at first, when they were young and BM was uber-weird-picky, and wouldn't eat anything literally staring at lasagna or anything that wasn't McNuggets and Fries. I still made it, served it and didn't give a rat's a** what they thought.

Years later? They like my food and meals. *mostly*. BM still has her list of 'no no foods' branded into their heads (really normal foods that she just won't eat, not for health, but because she's a psycho) and picky tastes.

McDonald's - something the BioMother and her puppet, er husband, had the skids eat several times a week. My bios?- they have no idea what the golden arches are. No joke. And they are of the age where most kids would absolutely know. Mine, do not. We just do not eat there. You don't *have* to eat fast food just because it exists.

My DH used to make a separate meal for the skids if they didn't like the dinner when they were younger, because that is what BM did and what he did when they were married - they catered to pickiness. It took a few conversations with him to get him to see how unhealthy this was. He is all aboard my way of thinking now and is even worse than me.

Every single kid I've ever met or had over here has a picky parent. It's from the parents. Period. I had a kid here once for a birthday who didn't like about 100 things, 2 of those being sauce and pizza (what kid doesn't like pizza?) - her mother is a very picky adult - and so I ended up having to make this girl chicken noodle soup during a birthday party and she ate it while the others all had pizza. Anyways, the next time? No soup for you! haha. - she ended up eating the pizza she was so hungry. Same kid went on a trip with us. Rule? Kid, you eat what's given to you. She pushed it around and eventually ate it.

Kids will eat when they are hungry. It's true.

Persevere (or make your DH do it - it's his kid, although he will cater to the skid anyway which will drive you mental later) - but do not cater to the kid. It will make it WORSE. Trust me.