Unethical on DH part or fair game?
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After a four year battle and $$$ DH lost legal joint custody of SS14. Basically BM had more $$$ for a better attorney and more balls than DH to fight dirty. So now DH still has the same Visitation as before BUT no longer has say in medical/school Decisions.
Now SS14 is a total spoiled brat and difficult to deal with. DH has more control over SS14 than BM and the school/therapists have even told DH SS14 listens to DH better than BM.
SS14 has been refusing to do most HW, refusing to turn on his camera for school google meets, refusing to study for tests etc. SS14 is failing 4 classes and has D and C in the other ones. This falls Mostly on when BM has SS14.
Now in the past DH would be all over SS14 to do his HW at BM's even calling SS14 to make sure SS did it. Now that BM fought/won full legal custody DH has basically said screw it BM is on her own. Now DH still talks to the teachers an makes sure SS does his HW BUT only if it falls on DH parenting time. DH is hoping SS14 "tanks" the next few months in school and then DH will point the finger at BM saying she can't handle SS. Which she can't. DH is hoping the end result will be BM just can't take SS14 anymore and allows DH to take custody of SS or be able to go back to court saying BM can't get SS to do his schoolwork so that's a change of circumstances and get custody reversed.
So I'm just not thinking things will go the way DH is hoping. Not sure family court will see things like DH. Thoughts on this??