Morning everyone, wake up I need some attention here well maybe a tool I can't seem to find.
As some of you may have noticed, I have been posting a lot lately. You guys/gals have been so helpful & patient too - I really do appreciate it & have been using some of the advice. Would like to ask anyone who is reading this to share what tools you have been using that seems to be of help in your household.
The drama we created & the drama that we are bearing through as step parents, what is your tool of choice that helps you survive your day to day when everything seems hard? I guess in order to answer this question, you would write your issue or issues & add what you have done to fix your issues. And how has that been working for you & everyone in your household?
My main issue has been my toxic SD & the drama of it. I tried to parent her being she lived with us & she was a daily walking talking nightmare who showed no self control. Its scary sitting back knowing that she hurts people, the elder, animals, younger kids, & attempted murder on two people. There has been no real punishment or justice for what she has done. Her parents don't know what to do with her & her BM won't allow her to be placed in a group home or where ever she needs to go. I never thought a young teenager could be capable of what she has done until I seen it with my own two eyes. I currently have a love/hate relationship with her & so does her dad.
Tools I plan to use - disengage & avoid her for safety reasons.
Don't know how it will turn out yet being its a decision I only recently made. My heart really hurts for her cause she can be such a good kid if she had motivation to. I'm scared for her cause she may end up being locked up in a matter of a few years from now.
Current issue here, DH & I are dealing with depression & he is seeking medication help for his. I'm going to get therapy, to afraid of pills to be on them myself. SD is living with her mother & getting therapy in case you were wondering.
Fears between husband & I are not knowing if we waited to long not knowing how to handle it sooner but we are acting toxic at the time. My problem, it all feels like a light switch that I can't turn off. Anxiety levels are great, thoughts are non stop, resentment has set in, & I'm coping with it coming here where it feels safe to listen & talk.
It will work out- its just a matter of getting help & having time to heal.
Hope this may help you guys/gals too, please share your story for it helps talking & maybe another reader can find strength or a tool hearing your story.