Tik Tok Drama
SD10 had to have a COVID test last week when she was at BMs. She needed it to be cleared to go back to school.
Long story short, DH and I follow SD on TikTok because she has made totally inappropriate videos in the past (when she's at BMs, not allowed in our house.) Well SD posted (on her PUBLIC profile) "Ugh, school is making me take covid test *middle finger emojis*"
SD came back to our house today and I *overheard* DH addressing it with SD10.
DH: "I saw what you posted on TikTok. That is inappropraite and I won't have my daughter doing that."
SD10 lying through her teeth: "That's not my accounttttt. That's someone else.It wasn't me/"
DH: "Don't lie, you're only making it worse."
SD10: "Well if you weren't STALKING me you wouldn't know about it."
DH: "I'm your parent, I'm going to monitor what you are doing on the internet, even if it happens at your Moms."
Oh. My. Gosh.
I'm totally disengaged from this situation. I don't address these things at all with SD. I'm not even present in the room. I let DH handle it. But geez! He totally has his hands full. I mean, first she's lying about it. Then talking back to her Dad accusing of "stalking". SD has constantly asked to go to BMs more, stay extra time there, etc. WELL, if I were 10 and had ZERO rules about the internet, I'd rather be at BMs too. I just think the whole thing is ridiculous that BMs response is "She wants her to be herself and express herself."
Question is, what are your thoughts on kid's privacy? If rules are broken, do you think kids should lose that? Do you agree with DH? Even if it happens at BMs, should he still address it (especially since BM doesn't).
Thanks in advance!