They're threatening to suspend BS5. Please help :(
So my BS5 started Kindergarten this year. So exciting! Until his teacher started telling me everything he's been doing wrong in class. He's been punished several times for constantly touching other kids (not inappropriately, just playing), he "pretended" to bite another child while playing, and yesterday he was sent to the principal's office for poking another child with a stick. He says he is reacting to them hitting him, but I can't tell if he's being truthful. They are now threatening him with suspension if it doesn't stop. Also, his personality has changed dramatically since starting school. He was thick-skinned, stubborn and independent. Now he cries over every little thing and always asks if he's disppointing me. He also cries and says he doesn't want to go to school anymore.
So here's what we're doing...we've talked to him and his teacher several times, I've called to set up a meeting with the teacher and principal to figure out what's going on, we constantly remind him to keep his hands and feet to himself, and we "role play"-I say "Pretend I'm a kid in your class and I push/hit/kick you. What should you do?" and etc. We think he may have some emotional problems and we are considering counseling. A child psychologist suggested a year ago he may have ADD and/or ODD but he had improved so much we didn't see anymore problems in him until he started school. We are now considering ADD testing.
He is such a sweet kid. I want him to enjoy school and talk to me about things that are bothering him. But he shuts down and I don't know how to get him to talk to me.
What I'm wondering is...have any of you had these same problems? Is my kid really this bad when he's away from me? Or is the school the problem? Do any of you have any suggestions for things we haven't tried yet? Any advice is greatly appreciated.