They only came because they thought he was going to die
I posted a vent (or two, or three) a few weeks back. I had skids here--one for a horrible extended period--during my husband's recent health crisis and hospitalization (he is much better now). The skids came stating that they wanted to be with their dad but they also wanted "to help." It was a burden.
Now that everything is over, I see they only came because they thought their father would die and they didn't want to feel guilty (?) if he died and they weren't around. The one came also because it was an opportunity: he needed a place to mooch for a month. At the hospital, none of them could put down their phones. It was rude.
None of the skids have even mentioned their father on social media. At all. Two, AS ALWAYS, went home and immediately had to "make up" to their mother and post various photos of them with mommy. These are people in their 30s. They are not 10.
One managed to wrangle a paid month off to take care of her father even though she was here for 3 days. Fraud.
Sometimes things become clearer later on. These kids don't give a crap about their father. They are filled with the incredible resentment of their mother, as if they've been raised in a cult.
I've known for years that we are dealing with disturbed hateful and entitled aholes. This is just another level of that, and I am truly forever DONE. FREE.AT.LAST. FOR GOOD.
Thanks for listening.