Teens are MEAN
Life with SD has been pretty great until three weeks agoish.
SD15 was at a funeral for a great grandmother she has never met... (New topic new drama )
I send her a meme like we send each other, this was at 9 in the morning visitation was not until 11. The text is SD, hubby, and me, we all just have a group chat.
She responds leave me the H$#@ alone I am upset I hate when you text me....
My response was First off don't be rude or cuss me, and second of all I didn't think anything was till 11 so I thought it was okay to text. (which normally is fine and she is all happy, but today she was in a mood.)
Then DH steps in, "Do NOT talk to her like that, no CHILD talks to a grown-up that way." So yes he corrected her.
Then 3 mins later I get a call from SD phone, I was at work so I do not answer. (I was on the phone with a customer so I couldn't). Its SD stepdad, he leaves me this awful voicemail. Calling me every name under the sun, and telling me she is upset and she can talk to me however she wants. He even called me the C-word, I HATE THAT WORD!
So I don't say a word I just ignore it and go on about my day. The next day I send her a good morning, hope you have a great day. (new day new start) .
This girl writes back you all owe me an apology, you all are horrible people. So on and so forth.
Which with us a child does not demand an apology, she can say hey you all hurt my feelings and tell us what's up, then we will talk it out.
The response from DH was civil, pretty much we do not say sorry for correcting you when you are wrong. You have to learn to talk to people when you are "upset" (this child has never met the lady and posted a selfie on snap chat with a dead body, smiling, girl has no class and was not upset).
So she gives us the silent treatment, which DH is the worse person to ever give that to, he can ignore with the best of them. So our day comes to pick her up and she is still nope not until you all say sorry. At this point with DH he is like fine stay home, BM isn't going to force her to come, and I honestly was not in the mood to even get involved. So she stays home and DH ignores her like she is him. (He did try calling her once to talk things over but she didn't answer and only texted back she wasn't talking unless he said sorry first).
So now we are here on the 2nd weekend she is missing, and she still saying we should say sorry, our relationship with her should mean enough to do it. Its a POWER play I think, but DH is still sticking to his word, you did wrong, we corrected you no sorry will be given.
What do we do, just let this play out or say sorry? DH has explained a sorry would not be given because there is nothing to be sorry for. It would be like a kid biting their sibling, a parent putting them in time out, and the kid is like hey say sorry because I can do no wrong. (well that's how I see it) .
Oh and to top it all off BM sends DH a message last night with her VENMO account number to send her money for something extra for SD. BM told DH you give her 100 everytime you drop her off and since you didn't get her last time can you please send me the money she needs blah blah blah..... UM NO he pays child support, we buy all school clothes/supplies, we send her grubhub 2-3 times a week, and DH paid for the entire set of braces... (PLUS ALOT MORE)...