Talking to BM and BW
Before I found this website I thought I was the only idiot who decided to fall in love with someone with kids. I love my wife but eveyday that passes I find my self regreting her two kids. I have supported them for three years now and I am about to loose it. She tells me that I knew what I was getting myself into when we got married, which is true but I am realizing I HATE KIDS! I have done everything for them and when fathers day came and went I did not get a card or even a phone call. The kids were with there Fathers for the summer, (who have no interest in there sons lives other than visits). I told my BW that it hurt me and she said she understood. I told her I am removing them from my insurence and would no longer be active in there lives as far as parent teacher meetings, ect. She got made and asked if I was doing this step parent thing for a reward. I said no the only reason I tollerate the kids is because I love you. I tried leaving but she gave me the whole I love you, you are the one talk and even claimed she would talk care of the kids. Well the taking care of the kids idea she followed through with for about 48 hours. Now she is back to saying I married her and the kids. I don't think that is right. They have fathers and a mother so why is it my responsability to insure them,feed them ect. Oh by the way legally since I am married to there mother do I have to put them on my insurance? Am I legally responsible for them as if they were my own? I am lost I wish I had never said I do. Is there any way out without breaking her heart to the point where she is suicidal? I have been batting around the idea of having an affair to make myself feel better and appriciated. I feel like I have no control of my life. My eight year old SKID told me today that I need to quit smoking, I almost lost it. I feel as though my life is ran by SKIDS. How do I tell her that I love her but hate her kids and I am not there father? Thank you everyone. If there are any woman out there that feel the same way and would like to join up and run let me know. LOL That is how crazy I am going. Thank you for your advice. I hope someday I can give back to this great online community.