You are here

Taking a Poll

B22S22's picture

What do you do when you get calls for BM on your home phone? And when you're about 99.9999999% sure it's a bill collector? These are starting to happen quite frequently, like 3-4 times per week (again).

DH and BM have been divorced for almost 20 years. He and I have been married for 10. These calls tend to wax and wane; in the last 2 weeks we've gotten probably 10 calls that start out "this call is being monitored and or recorded......" then they ask for her by name.

Do you politely say nobody by that name lives here? Or do you tell them they have the wrong number and give them BM's number (if you know it)??

WalkOnBy's picture

"hi, StupidWhore doesn't live here. Here is her address and phone number. Please remove this number from your records. Thanks. Bye"

Not hard at all Smile

justkeepstepping's picture

At the very least start telling them all that they have the wrong number. When DS got his first cell phone a few years ago he was getting upwards of 10 calls a day for someone with a name very similar to mine. I started calling them all back and telling them that the phone number they were calling did not belong to the person they were looking for. After a few days the calls stopped.

ESMOD's picture

I think I would probably just tell them that no one by that name lives there. I might even say that it is my husband's EX but that I do not know her contact information. So sorry.

The callers likely have done a skip trace and are calling "known relations" that they have found through online searches. I would make sure I know what company is calling and make a note of it. If you get a 2nd call, ask for a supervisor and advise you will be reporting them for harassment as you had already told them that the person they seek does not reside there.

I got a call for my Exhusband a while back. Divorced over 10 years..lol. I could probably have found a new number for him.. but I figured it's not my circus.. they can figure it out themselves.

twoviewpoints's picture

Give them BM's home number, cell number, work number, home address, work address, her favorite local hang-out's number and address........

Unfortunately they will hound you until they have a new number for her.

My SS was livid with me when I gave his bill collectors (more than one) his work number. Meh, it was either that or totally meltdown on the kitchen floor in a puddle of insaneness. I'm not the one who didn't pay my bills, he is. Here have his number, oh and this one and this one. Go harass the person who didn't pay their bills.

It was in the day of no cell, no caller id. Only landline. Day after day, numerous times a day. It was a nightmare.

So my response to your poll is I would rat BM out in a heartbeat.

DaizyDuke's picture

I used to get collection calls for my exH from time to time. I would happily give them his home phone, work phone and address... and then tell them to remove my information from their system.

My ExH and I have been divorced over 10 years now and somehow DH got a call last November from Discover card collections looking for MY ex. WTF? DH told them he and I had been married for 7 years, together for almost 9, and not sure how they got HIS number but to remove it immediately.

Rags's picture

Inform them that she is not available at your number and address then give the collector her number and address and request that they no call you again on the matter.

Lather.... rinse.... repeat.

Direct the bill collectors to her where they need to be calling.

Merry's picture

Heck, I've given bill collectors my own DD's number. I don't want to be harassed -- talk to the person who didn't pay the bill.

secondplace's picture

What happened here is that I started getting collection calls for a credit card bill held by my ex. I ignored them at first, but eventually got tired of them calling. I let them know that he no longer lives at my address (for 9 and a half years). They will take my phone number off their list. When they can't collect the money, they will sell the debt to someone else. Then the phone calls start up again as they start tracing his last known phone number. Rinse and repeat. This has been going on since we split up 9 1/2 years ago - for the same debt.

Dontfeedthetrolls's picture

Not exactly the same but my cell phone number use to belong to someone else. I've had it for 6 years now and about every 3 months I was getting calls from lawyers for the person who use to have the number.

I finally had to get rude. I demand they remove my number and if they continue to call me I will consider it harrashment since they were very clearly told it was no longer her number. It seems to have finally worked as I just realized it's been about 6 months since the last call.

It did seem the case was being passed around but instead of taking 10 calls from the same group I'd handle the first one and be done for months.

What is funny is her name still shows up under my number at petsmart when I use my pals card. Otherwise it's stopped.

SMforever's picture

I think.that if someone uses another person's home phone or cell number as their contact, then incurs a debt which gets chased, then morally it's fine to give their forwarding information to debt collectors.

I had an ex BF who used my address despite not actually living with me, and I had the payday loans people calling. All sorts of different ones. Then I discovered he had used my son's name in one case...a minor child...to incur a debt. The child was 4 years old. Imagine getting collection calls for that...which is when I hit the roof and started cooperating with the collectors to actually corner and charge the guy with fraud. There are some real creeps out there. The collectors are not the problem.

Ex-wife? I'd out her with pleasure. Like a karma parcel pre-addressed.

Acratopotes's picture

simply tell them she has not live there for X years and they should remove the phone number and replace it with....

her new number, give all her details to them }:)

still learning's picture

we've gotten several calls for ss32 on the home phone due to him missing car payments, I don't have his # but I know BM's address where he was last known to be living. I always give it to them then ask that our # be removed from their list.