Stupid thing or do I have a point?
In the messed up situation we live in, when we are always the bad guy (girl actually) to the BF, skids, BM, it is hard to maintain persepective. That's what I like about this forum. Tell me please if I have a point.
My BF's ex, BM, cannot cook and packs her kid's lunch (SS11) with either the yellow blob in tupperware or the red blob in tupperware and some sort of high fructose fruit-like substitute that Walmart had on special. Well, the kid won't eat it. The kid is overindulged, guilty-parented and spoiled with too many toys and too much allowance, and he has more spending money that either my BF or I. He is a little pudge-ball, so I know he is eating, and I suspect he is buying the day camp pizza, chicken fingers, etc that is offered daily since he has allowance to burn.
Anyway, BM's crap lunches end up in the bottom SS's backpack and BF puts them in our refrigerator. One day BF sat down to lunch with me and actually ate BMs leftover food right in front of me. I said sarcastically but firmly, "how nice of your ex wife to make your lunches." He didn't get the point. Yellow blob, red blob, her food was contantly staring me in the face when I opened my frig. I asked him bluntly..."please do not keep her food in our frige. Either tell the kid to eat it, or throw it out at camp, or ask BM not to pack him lunch or throw it away if you find it in his backpack...DO NOT store it in my frige and let it rot." Kid comes home Thursday with the usual crap at the bottom of the backpack. BF puts it in the very front of the top shelf of the frige. SS is not with us all weekend. Finally last night, Monday, when I couldn't find a place for our leftover pizza, I lost it. I yelled at BF, saying I had tried to be nice about it, saying obviously he could not listen until someone was screaming at him, obviously it gave him some comfort to have his ex's food in his face, but it was not happening in my house. I threw it in the trash and went to bed. Of course the night was ruined. Does everything have to be a fight? Can these DFs ever consider our feelings? Why do we not matter in our own house? I know its just food, but it is everything else too. I am tired of being an aftertought...after he thinks of SS, after the thinks of BM, even after he thinks about her disgusting food! Sorry this is long. It was a long night.