Struggling to disengage
After our fallout this summer SD 16 wants nothing to do with us again. She said she's not ready to come back over and needs space. She's back to being best friends with BM which I'm pretty sure is the only reason she came back into our lives to begin with (they weren't getting along when she reached out about a year ago). This back and forth has happened multiple times and now that we have a bio child I'm over it. It hurts enough for us I don't want to put my daughter through his sister being in and out of her life.
A month ago SD asked me to drop off a few things she left here and I let her know that she should reach out to her dad about it and that I didn't want to be the middle man any longer. She responded with an attitude saying that it's not fair that I chose to stop helping when she needs something and never messages her dad about it.
Yesterday she messaged me again for the same reason saying she was sending a friend over to pick up her stuff. I again told her to message her dad and when she said she didn't have his number I have it to her then stopped reading/responding. She was really ride to her dad demanding that he give her her stuff and he chose to not respond. We have no interest in keeping it but her attitude is uncalled for.
Her friend still came over and knocked on the door but we didn't answer we have a policy of not doing that if we don't have plans first for anyone. Her dad isn't sure if he'll respond at all (I think he should) and it's been on my mind constantly.
The only thing she left here was a cracked iPhone, a cheap $30 prepay phone, a t-shirt and some sandals. I feel like this is more about lashing out then needing her stuff. Thoughts?