Stepkids acting rude and cruel
I brought up to my gf that her SS (7) is mean and cruel towards me and other people and he does not listen. This is not a surpise to her because he is that way with her too regularly. He makes rude, mean comments regularly, throws tantrums and does not listen to do what he is told daily. All she will say is "He's like that to everyone when he's not at school" and this is true. He is the same way with her, his father, his sister, his cousins, grandma, aunts and uncles, other adults, etc. I will admit my girlfriend's parenting is a little lax a lot of the time and her kids get away with a lot of stuff and kind of rule the house sometimes but I'm not in the poistion to be an authority figure especially if mom and dad aren't doing their part first. I feel bad for the kid sometimes because I believe he might have some type of mood disorder type of problem going on that's likely genetic (his father is a real piece of work and is very moody/weird type of guy). But I was just wondering if the behavior shoud be accepted because of his age or he should be evaluated by a psychologist or I should stay out of it? I have been picking him up at school on my only day off from work and he is regularly in a bad mood when I get him and not nice to me. I've been overly nice ot this kid trying to win him over. I will spend time with him doing fun things he likes, take him to lunch, etc only for him to be rude and mean to me in return mostly. It's gotten to where I don't really want to be around him and be spending my one day off work with him. My gf says I should relax and not worry about it because he's like that with everyone but it's gotten to the point where I just don't want to be around him much because it's not enjoyable and I'd rather be doing other things. Any advice?