Stepfamilies and Social media
Social media is the bane of step-life. It seems our SOs, in laws and their ex's always are doing something that portrays life in some way other than reality. I just need to vent about it for a second, feel free to share how it annoys you too. I know the solution is to block people or stay off of it but dammit I have friends and family that live far away that I want to stay in touch with.
DH does not post pictures of me or of our six-month-old daughter. His excuse is that he is just not active on social media. If you take a look at his accounts it's as if everything stops when he met me about 5 years ago. There are tons of pictures of SD. He has scrubbed his profile of BM though. BM has done the same, she left no trace of DH and leaves us completely alone on social media. At least she is doing this right!
My in laws post lots of pictures of SD and her cousins. My DD and I are very absent. My DD and I are the only ones in DH's family that are a different race (BM was the same) so I wonder if that's it? Or maybe they scrubbed their profiles of his ex and decided to save the trouble by never posting anything of his current wife? That would explain my exclusion but not my DD's. It's not that they don't take pictures of her or all of us, they just never post them and instead choose pictures with everyone else. More than once I have been asked to take a picture of the rest of his family (pre-DD) and that one got posted. They have even waited for me to leave to go buy food for everyone and took a picture while I was gone and then post it where I could see it. My DH has heard about this exclusionary behavior but I don't think he ever talked to his family about it.
When I gave birth they all showed up (before I was ready) and took tons of pictures of them holding the baby. I was still out of it and asked them to send the pictures to me. They were texting them to each other in the same room but never sent me one. Never posted any but it was so important to come visit the day I gave birth to get those pictures. My DH heard about that as well and I think after that he finally pushed for better boundaries with family visits!!