step kids are saying really hurtful things to my 3 yr old son
I have been in a relationship with my soon to be husband for almost 3 years. He has 2 girls with his ex, i have a son 3 yrs that he has raised and we have a 10 mth old son together.
Recently i noticed my 3 yr old son acting very strange, really sad and very angry at times. we have his 2 girls 50% of the time and when we would tell him the girls were coming home he would cry. I of course was prying to find out what was wrong with my lil man....eventually he told me that his step sisters were being really mean to him!! He would tell us at times that they were hitting him but we never really saw it happen but we would see him hit them. After a few months i got sneaky and would spy on them playing and caught them hitting him and he would hit back ect. I brought this to my SO's attention but nothing really came out of it.
About a month ago my son started using the word "hate" which confused me because i dont use that word around him. He started telling me that I hated him and daddy hated him and that he was a bad boy ect.....when he said this to me i broke down and tried to explain to him that he means the world to me and nothing he could do would ever make me hate him and that mommy love him so much!! And of course my SO told him the same thing...I figured i had to talk to the girls to see if they knew anything or had been saying things to him.
I took the girls for a walk and asked them straight up what the hell are you guys saying and doing to him. I stupidly told them if they were honest i wouldn`t be mad and that i just wanted the truth!!! Well they admitted with no thought behind it that they have been telling him they hated him,and that mommy and daddy hated him and that he was a bad boy! They also admitted that they were hitting him and he would hit back and tell us they didnt touch him! This mad me so angry that these kids would say something like this to my son a 3yr old boy like really wtf!!!
At any rate i made them talk to him and say they were sorry and that they didnt hate him ect! I thought that it would stop! Boy was i wrong......he was going on and on about everyone hating him last week and saying that he hates this and that ect! And it was making me so angry, so i knew come monday i had to talk to the girls again....sure enough they apparently forgot that they were not aloud to say those things to him or anyone else!!And so it continues......my 3 yr old son is talking about dying and stupid sh%t like that and it is making me so mad at the girls i can`t even look at them without having the same feelings of hate!!
I told my SO tonight that if it dosen`t stop that i can not stay in this relationship for the sake of my 2 children! There is no way a child should have to live life thinking his parents hate him and that no one wants him ....f*$k them!! What should i do is this normal É cuz if it is i dont want any part of it.........