Step daughters mother
I need advice on this therefore, I am posting the latest. This weekend Step-daughter was spending her parenting time with her father. My daughter from a previous relationship comes down and tells me how step-daughter went into her bedroom to have her phone conversation with her mother. My daughter states she was listening to music videos on her laptop but,it wasn't too loud she couldn't hear step-daughter's phone conversation with her mother. As per my daughter,she overheard the mother asking step-daughter about a book the grandmother had given her. Step-daughter told her she had put it in the dresser. The mother didn't like the word she used, and told her not to talk like them(which is us). I told my daughter I would speak to step-daughter's father regarding this matter. Daughter went upstairs to her room. I then proceeded to tell fiance what my daughter had just told me. I told fiance this is the second time my daughter has had to hear the negative remarks that his ex-wife is relaying to step-daughter. Fiance inquired what did I mean this is the second time daughter has had to hear the negative remarks that ex-wife relays to step-daughter? I told him the last time my daughter went to see her father, my daughter had invited step-daughter to accompany her because, they were going to the movies. Step-daughter went and she proceeded to tell my daughter that her mother said my daughter was rude. My daughter then told step-daughter your mom shouldn't be talking. When my daughter had told me what occurred I was upset because, of the comment the mother had made about my daughter but, I also was upset because, my daughter stated what she did to step-daughter. Regardless if it may be true I didn't want step-daughter relaying messages to her mother that my daughter had said. I did inquire with daughter why step-daughter made this comment, and daughter told me it was probably the way she was speaking to her dad. Fiance had forgotten about this incident, and so I refreshed his memory.
I advised fiance since they are supposed to go to the psychologist next weekend for step-daughters appointment that he address the matter with the psychologist and the ex-wife. I have a feeling fiance isn't going to say anything. Because, I have this feeling I want to speak to step-daughter myself about it. What do you think? Should I wait to see if it is addressed or go ahead and speak to the step-daughter about it? Please advise.