SS11 loses and/or breaks things all the time!!!!
My 11 year old SS is awkward and clumsy as hell and can barely walk in a straight line without tripping over his own feet. He's also very fidgety and will literally mess with anything that happens to be in front of him including other people's stuff. We went over to MIL's house last weekend to see her new puppy and I look over and he's fidgeting with the knife set that is sitting on the counter. I tell him to stop touching it, he puts the knife down and starts messing with MIL's little glass figurines. It drives me absolutely crazy!!
But what's worse is that he also doesn't take care of any of his stuff and breaks things all the time. We have replaced his school headphones FIVE times this school year because he has broken them. He got a $300 Nintendo Switch for his birthday in October and already dropped it and cracked the screen. He dropped my son's ipad last year and it shattered. He has lost his lunchbox twice and DH ran right out and bought him brand new ones. Yesterday I had to drive DH's truck and when I slid the seat forward I there were three tiny Nintendo Switch games underneath the seat where SS had had them in the backseat last week. These are all brand new games he got for Christmas and there they are just smashed up under the car seat. I was pissed. I took them into DH and told him flat out I will not spend one more dollar on SS11 until he learns to take care of his stuff.
DH goes in his room and opens his closet and there is a literal PILE of stuff in there that he had apparently been hiding from us. The pile included DH's $60 Playsation headphones broken in half, a jacket we got him for Christmas that still had the tags on it but was covered in melted candy cane pieces, a poster my mom bought him for Christmas that had been crushed all to hell, a stack of school work half of which looks like it was supposed to be returned to school but had just been thrown in the closet, and his freaking violin is sitting on top NOT in the case and with a big dent in the front of it.
I do not understand this. I have another SS he's 9 and two bios the same ages as the boys and none of them are destructive like this kid. I taught my kids from a very early age to take care of their stuff. This crap costs money and I absolutely refuse to just keep blowing through money when he breaks it or loses it. My DH's famous answer is "I'll talk to him again about being more responsible" OK in my opinion, the "talking" is doing absolutely nothing. I don't think this should just be brushed off as normal boy behavior. If it were one of my bios I would be taking stuff from them as punishment and also making them do extra chores to pay for some of this. Am I wrong???