some DO see the light, but often it is MUCH too late....
not sure how many remember my situation. for those that dont, i will give the really really condensed version:
was with bf for 5yrs. he had a daughter, fulltime, who hated me. seriously hated me. he and i had a daughter together. things went really bad for so long that i lost it. lost everything. even MY bd for a while. exbf and exsd moved up north when we split.
okay, i know that isnt much info but the point of this blog is that i get a surprise package yesterday, followed by a stream of phone calls. from exsd. the package contained a 3 page letter, some bracelets she made, and a few other things. the letter was a very long apology for everything she did/said. she BEGGED me to get back with her father, as his latest gf just left him, and his mother (her gma) wants to sell the house. she claims she knows what she had with me and she was sorry for being so horrible. horrible???? thats putting it lightly. i was no saint during those five years, but it was a direct result of what i was put through. no excuse, i know, but my excuse nonetheless.
anyways, the letter goes on with her own excuses for her behavior. it also states how much her dad misses me and bd3. and how much SHE misses me, how she's better now and wont cause trouble.
then the phone calls. i let the voicemail pick up each time, as i am floored and not sure how to explain to this soon to be preteen that she caused ALOT of damage, and i wasnt sure i wanted to go through shit again. my life is getting so much better. i am in school, i have a part time job, i am in therapy, and just enjoying life. bd3 is back with me (had an arrangment with my parents when all this began months and months ago). i feel like i am in my prime!
i dont know, but i dont want to put my daughter though anything anymore. any suggestons on letting exsd down easy?