So DH called his sister about what OSD did to me
So further to my post about the 'thank you' OSD posted publicly in which she referred to DH's sister by first and last name (same as my last name/DH's of course) and BM by first and last name (also same last name as she kept that name although her and DH are divorced) and then me by my first and MAIDEN name, DH decided tonight he would phone his sister for her thoughts and what OSD was thinking in doing that
I figured DH's sister would defend OSD, never ever support me in any way, because she is the one leading/encouraging OSD to do this in the first place!
So, first of all, DH's sister carries on as if she didn't 'really' read the post. Of course by her response it was obvious she had totally read it
Then she starts saying how she never really chats or gets into any discussions on Facebook
DH says neither does Disillusioned and we mentioned I'm not friends with OSD on Facebook, that I only learned of her post through YSD responding to it. And that DH felt by asking her opinion on what OSD could have meant, would help us to understand if it was nothing and maybe me or DH being over-sensitive, or if there was something we're missing here
We also added that this post she sent was after she had already not called DH for his birthday, nor had SGS call him, which they do on our home phone every single year, so these two incidents combined make us wonder if there is an issue with her
DH's sister's response?
"Well DH, you once told me I'm an insignificant part of the family, so well, you know....."
DH says "whether I did or did not do something like that, 20 years ago, has nothing to do with what I'm phoning you about now"
DH's sister continues in this nonchalant "well, you know, you once told me that I'm insignificant. You did. You said that to me DH"
Then she starts to CRY
DH repeats whether he did or did not do that has nothing to do with what OSD just did to me, that he wants to understand what exactly her issue is, that he is NOT happy she is treating his wife this way, especially after all the time, money and effort I gave to her this weekend in helping host the shower for YSD, not a good way in his opinion to say thank you"
DH's sister again acted like really she wasn't that interested or seriously could care less.
She ended by saying she would "like to think that it was simply and oversight by OSD" and also that OSD had simply 'forgotten' to phone DH on his birthday with all the stress from YSD's shower and all...
I guess DH's sister's point was 'why do you care DH that someone tried to indicate Disillusioned is insignificant, when you made ME feel insignificant - THAT'S what matters, not Disillusioned"!
That couldn't be more clear to me
The whole conversation was pointless and stupid, except, I actually think she was crying because it occurred to her that HER brother was really angry that me, his wife, had been mistreated. And of course, she is feeling jealous and ticked off that I would be treated with such importance by DH, when she feels that should be reserved for her of course who is just so much more important than me to him
What a messed up family!!