Thank you so much for all your responses. A little more info is probably needed to better understand the situation, but sometimes when I get ranting I'm all over the place. I've been with my FDH for 10 years this year. His kids are 13 and 11, so I've known them since ages 2 and 4. Their mom is a gold digging POS and doesn't work, sits on welfare and scams anyone and everyone she can to get a free hand out. She's even joined a church, just so she can have help moving (which she does every 4 months) and get the food hampers they hand out to families in need. Well, My FDH mom works at this church she went to and they wrote down "1" large hamper... well, BM took it upon herself to change the "1" to a "4" and scammed them out of 3 large hampers!!! FDH mom notified the other churches in the city to let them know what she did so she doesn't get away with it anywhere else. She also lied to the courts about FDH making child support payments over the span of 2 years that they made FDH REPAY AGAIN :jawdrop: Anyways, BM has been married, divorced and with a bunch of different men and has 5 kids in total with 3 different biodads. She had twins that got taken away from her before FDH and her were together. Then, when FDH was FOURTEEN and she was 19, he knocked her up and that was the beginning of the end. His boys are actually really well behaved and make me feel rather lucky when I'm reading some of these posts. BM's last bf was in and out of jail for major crimes that made it to the news and newspapers! She was moving the kids around different schools/cities for the past 2 years and they were starting to fail school. Last summer, BM's bf (he's very jealous of my FDH for some reason)served FDH with court papers that were requesting MORE child support (because I have a business I own and she thought she could get her hands into my money as well) and she was also requesting that I was to not be around the boys when they came over (no reason, other than she wanted to start shit again). So, by this point BM gave us enough ammunition to go for full time custody. And it truly was in the best interest of the kids. Living with her, they went to 4 different schools in less than one year! We have been living in the same place for the past 4 years and both have full time jobs (I HAD a full time job, but got laid off last Friday, which is why I'm stuck at home with the kids all day). No stability whatsoever! FDH was given full time custody in October. Since then, BM has moved twice, her bf was arrested and went to jail, got out and they got back together. They are currently breaking up again. Now, the wrench in all of this... BM is sick! I mean, really sick. We don't know the exact details, but she has been in the hospital for weeks, got surgery and is always going back to emergency on her weekend with the kids. Even after all the hell and drama she's put us through, I truly feel bad for her. I don't want her to be sick (more for selfish reasons, but I don't like hearing about anyone suffering, dealing with health issues. It's so frustrating!!! When I get frustrated with the kids being stuck with me on the weekend, it makes me feel bad about my feelings of frustration!! It's something that can't be helped. It's not like BM can help being sick. It's not like FDH can help needing to put in extra hours until my Employment Insurance kicks in. It's just the way it is, but I still NEED a break away from these little people!! I don't know what we can do to get a break So, now, I just lock myself in my room at night with my computer and glass of wine and pray that BM gets better!!!