Ok so yesterday my SD BM mother called her and she hasn't talked to or seen her since the wk before Christmas, and my SD5 ask her if she "knows her mommys in jail" well of course the gma says yes (because her mom is her daughter).... So she says she will take her to go see her and my HUSBAND agrees!!! WTH!!! She is 5 really so lets reward the POS BM by letting the 5yo who she DOESNT even have custody of because she chose NOT to because she would rather do DRUGS see this innocent child that I AM raising!!! Not only that thats not even the biggest concern.... I am going to have to be the one that when my SD comes home and is all upset because she seen her mommy and couldn't stay with her she vents to and wants to be with.... Thats NOT fair to me... All I do is TRY so hard to be the BEST SM to this little girl and treat her and my son NO differntly and I don't even have a SAY in this... plus her dad told me a few months ago he wasn't going to let her see her there...that it wasn't fair to her to see her mom in that place.... SO WHY NOW WHY CHANGE HIS MIND I am soooo ANGRY!!! Wut do I need to do? Do I j/step back or do I raise my opinion and fight this!?! I'm looking out for my SD whether they see it or not... It is not fair she's 5 she's FINALLY for the 1st time in her life stable and now this? Really!?! HELP ME!!!!