Should kids be forces to babysit their younger siblings?
So its DH weekend for SD13, BM said they are going to have to switch. BM has plans Friday night and needs SD to baby sit her sister. SD is 13 and her younger sister is not even 2 yet.
First of all I do not like the fact the SD is BMs built in baby sitter when ever she needs one, also I do not think SD is mature enough to watch her sister alone. DH told BM no that wasnt going to work but BM does not care. (SD has come over every weekend for the last month in a half on her own, she likes our house, but if we do the math this weekend is actually our weekend. SD never wants to go home any more, but she also does not want to change schools. We can't drive her 45 mins to school and back every day. )
BM gets mad SD comes over so much, BM needs a break, and SD needs to help with her sister. Not like BM husband should do anything.
Also we took SD phone away this summer (she was just flat out being stupid with what she was doing online, and saying to people. Bullying, sexting all that crap.) We did give her a flip phone for emergancys, but BM took it away. Now we have no way to talk to SD unless its through BM, and BM refuses unless she is needing something. (alittle extra cash for Christmas is what she has been hinting at. I think this is the only reason she let SD come over so much the last few weeks.)
So two questions
1.) Am I wrong thinking BM should not make SD baby sit? SD didnt have the kid, the kid is awful, and SD has no way to get ahold of any one if there is a problem. There are many Sundays BM ask us to drop SD off early becasue BM needs to go to the store, or has plans and no one around to watch the little one.
2.) Should we push this weekend her coming (we have family plans we made a few weeks ago and BM knew about them .) or since SD came over so much last few weekends just let it go.